He has "Potential"...You know?

"Girrrrrl, I am sick & tired of this man. He doesn't take me anywhere, he doesn't help with the kids, when I call him he doesn't even answer his phone. Whenever I try to talk to him, he yells, tells me that I'm talking stupid and disrespects me. I don't want to leave him, because I know who he is capable of being..I'm waiting on that guy to show up and stay.. He has potential, you know? "

LOL...Oh, but do I..

My dear friend is cheating on her Man with "Mr. Potential". Let me explain:

Mr. Potential is the man that she hopes her Man will be. He's the one who loves her unconditionally, nurtures her, encourages her, adores her, understands her and sexes her reaaallly good. He is the illusion of all things good. Although perception is reality..He does not exist. Sorry hun, you're stuck with the real one!

The bottom line is this: Every person has the "Potential" to become greater than what they are. However; not everyone has the desire to edify themselves. Consider the source, don't be a victim of compassion. Learn the difference between one who's discovering their potential -vs- the one who actually knows their potential and refuses to use it!

At the End of the day..

Girlfriend, you need to Stop falling in Love with a Man's "Potential".

He either is...OR He isn't.

~luvspellz~

ASK ME A QUESTION shahsha@aol.com

My friend once said to me : I don't want to leave him," I just want him to meet me 50/50 in the relationship."

I smiled and said to her, "well that's your first mistake. "

The bottom line is this people.. If you are in a relationship and you only require 50% effort from your mate, you're bound to be short changed!  BE PREPARED TO GET EXACTLY WHAT YOU HAVE ASKED FOR...Let me break it down;  Essentially,  you are asking for this:

50%- Loyalty

50%- Trust

50%- Commitment

50%- Honesty

50%- Accountability

My question to you is,  if you are both only giving 50%, where the hell is the other 50% going?? This is how outside influences are given the opportunity to penetrate your relationship. Whether it be a jump-off, social media, friends or drugs, someone or something is consuming the remaining 50%. 

The moral of the story is this, never accept anything  less than 100/100  in ANY relationship. Raise the bar, know your worth, know your partners worth. LEAD BY EXAMPLE, LET IT BEGIN WITH YOU. 

As the cliche` goes..." Anything worth having..is worth working for..." Go hard or Go home!

~LuvSpellz~

Ask me a question @shahsha@aol.com